LISTENING AND REFLECTING

LISTENING AND REFLECTING

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HOW NOT TO LISTEN

REFLECTIVE LISTENING

ALL FEELINGS ARE VALID

STILL FACE EXPERIMENT

As parents/carers we depend upon talking too much and listening too little. For a child, knowing that they are understood by a parent/carer builds relationship and the sense of connection that is at the heart of all good relationships.

A simple example of reflective listening. Notice her level of interaction is raised to match Sheldon’s, and also how quickly Sheldon feels like he is being listened to.

For several days make a committed effort not to ask questions of a child while having personal conversations. When either your intent or the child’s intent is to share something a bit more personal, just listen and be reflective without using questions or interrogation

THE SKILL OF LISTENING

What is Active Listening

Often the quality of your day is equivalent to your children’s roller-coaster of emotions. One way that you can keep yourself on an even keel is to learn how to steady their ups-and-downs. 

Listening to your children is the chief skill you can use. You can hear their disappointment when they do not make the team; you can accept their frustration when their plans do not work out; and you can acknowledge their dissatisfaction when they complain that their friends have more freedoms than they do.

You do not need to “fix” everything for your children – all you need do is listen.

For more information click on the man to read all about the Skill of Active Listening

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Patience is important when learning a new language

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